Redesign: Restore the Heart, Restore the Home

Redesign: Restore the Heart, Restore the Home

Somehow, our lives have gotten so crammed that time to play has been put on the back burner.

Our jobs come with us to the bathroom, the bedroom, and the dinner table with constant access to messaging and social media. We have lost the art of rest, but rest is actually a pivotal piece to do our work more effectively. We are more successful and productive when we take breaks. Allow room to breathe so you can get inspired again. Life should be a balance of faith, work, play, and rest. It may be time to shift our schedules to make time to find the joy in everyday life again.

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A Memoir of Our Child: The Journey of Mourning

Pregnant? I didn’t think so highly of my capabilities to think that I could “handle it”. Yet, I felt peace that I would learn and delight in the process. I also prayed and asked God to tell me what this little one would be like. In every previous pregnancy, I had always gotten a clear indication about each baby early on, and each had proven to be true.

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Sexy is Not The Goal

Sexy is Not The Goal

The message was in fashion magazines that boasted that they included tips to help me lose 10 pounds or guide me to my flirtatious best. The woman on the front was always captivatingly sexy. The raised eyebrow, pursed lips, hands on hips. I knew that I would never look quite like her, but I figured that if I didn’t want to be lonely, I’d at least need to learn a LITTLE, try a LITTLE, flirt a LITTLE. 

I felt like a fraud, but I tried. Tried to be sexy.

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The Trauma of War, Porn Addiction, and the Fight for Men to Feel Again

The Trauma of War, Porn Addiction, and the Fight for Men to Feel Again

“Is it worth it to open my heart up, when I know that the reality is that I cannot control the future and I may lose even more?”

It is a question that everyone asks when they face a great loss. What happens to someone when they cannot process sorrow? It is like a congested highway within their souls, cars inching along, struggling to reach an exit. I believe that the trauma of war created a traffic jam of emotions that naturally impacted the next generation.

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How We Talk to Our Boys about Porn (Without Actually Talking to Them About Porn)

How We Talk to Our Boys about Porn (Without Actually Talking to Them About Porn)

Mindsets regarding what is normal and healthy have shifted, and we, the adults in the situation, are surrounded and inundated with so much sexuality that the desensitization has led to a darker and darker subsection within pornography. North America has lost her ability to blush. Statistics show that we are also losing the ability to be intimate and vulnerable with real people, in real life because of it.

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